After lots of struggling and hitting each other with different research results, psychologists finally agree: a child's development is equally determined by parenting, environment and genetics.
Yet as a mom I feel 100% responsible for my children's happiness! Whereas about fifty percent of their happiness has nothing to do with me. I'm neither omniscient nor omnipotent. I can't protect them from everything, and perhaps I shouldn't want to. Because isn't life supposed to hurt now and then? Isn't that what helps you grow?
Even God got in trouble with that 50% he couldn't influence. The minute he turned his back, Adam and Eve took a bite from the forbidden fruit.
So at least I'm a in good company!
You only really get 25% assuming they got half their genes from their father. So the 25% they are good, thats you, 25% ok, your spouse, 50% they are in trouble - its the environment. easy peasy
ReplyDeleteUgh, I am struggling with my oldest with this very issue, he is 8. He is having a hard time dealing with anger, and reacting appropriately when someone "does something" to him. I wish I could be everywhere at all times like God... Oh well we just do the best we can.
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ReplyDeleteThey do need to experience the ups and downs of life in order to learn coping skills - as hard as it is to see them hurt.
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