After lots of struggling and hitting each other with different research results, psychologists finally agree: a child's development is equally determined by parenting, environment and genetics.
Yet as a mom I feel 100% responsible for my children's happiness! Whereas about fifty percent of their happiness has nothing to do with me. I'm neither omniscient nor omnipotent. I can't protect them from everything, and perhaps I shouldn't want to. Because isn't life supposed to hurt now and then? Isn't that what helps you grow?
Even God got in trouble with that 50% he couldn't influence. The minute he turned his back, Adam and Eve took a bite from the forbidden fruit.
So at least I'm a in good company!