Restraining order, or when your child takes the next step into adulthood
When your children take the next step to adulthood, as a mom you have to take a step forwards too. But that's often easier said than done.
When my oldest son was sixteen I started a new school. Which meant he had to ride his bike for 40 minutes to the nearest train station, and then take the train to his new school.
At the time I wrote about how I tried to be a good mom.
When I read it now, it makes me smile.
So I wanted to share it with you!
When your son takes the next step into adulthood
My sixteen year old son started his new school last week. Everyday he has to bike to the school station, and then take the train to his new school.
This may be a big step for him, but it's also a big step for me. His mom!
Because I have to trust him to leave on time. I have to trust him to get on the right train. And I have to trust him to eat enough.
I got up at the crack of dawn to Help!
That is why every morning I got up at the crack of dawn, to make sure my son got off to school alright. I watched him eat, and told him to eat some more. I told him it was time to leave, and I told him to pack an extra jacket. Because you never knew: it might get cold. And I told him to pack some cash, because you never know: he might need it.
I was being a good mom. Or so I thought.
But my son thought I was being an annoying mom.
So he took out a restraining order against me. He told me to stay in bed, and catch up on my sleep.
That way he could catch up on his morning rest.
I just love this concept of a "restraining order"!! It's so easy to "helicopter parent" when kids become young adults. Even now (my boys are 26 and 29) I find it hard to back off sometimes, even though they've been out of home for years! My eldest is, as we speak, driving solo across the country towing a rally car, and I find myself watching for his activity on Messenger so I know he's still going okay. If they had thought of the idea of taking out a "restraining order" against me, they would have done it years ago, lol!!!
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My kids are slightly annoyed by me too. I think that's a part of them growing up.
Its easy to helicopter parent at all stages of life but so important that we let our young adults become the adults they need to be.